being over weight... the reason for evrything wrong
although married to an amasing bloke. all my problems come from being over weight. i cant have children coz of the weigth. cant adopt coz of the weight. dont like going out much coz of the weight. dont like seeing poeple that knew me when i thin and i feel imbarrest meetin poeple my husband works with. i spend most days on my own i drink to much coz im so un happy . i want to try and lose the weight but coz i feel so sad all the time i just cant get motervated. if i had a child my life wonld be so different. ive been tryin for 9 long years i have pcos which doesnt help the problem. all my husband and i eant is a child and unless i get my self sorted thats not goin to happen! i dont know y im doin this letter but i cant talk about it to anybody else. well thats it my life in about 150 words that cant be bad....
Story shared: 16/01/2007 13:46:26
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sounds like you're feeling really down - as though you've come to the end of line with everything?
I really feel for you, and in some ways i can empathise with you, as i cannot have children either ( although not due to weight problems).
Regarding weight loss - have you ever thought about joining a club? I.e, weightwatchers? Some people find 'not going it alone' helps..... I know people will suggest things like not buying fattening foods ( i.e, crisps, takeaways, etc) when you go shopping, so you dont have the temptation in!
When you reach for the food, does it feel liek the only thing that will help? Would it be possible to try reaching for somethign else, instead of the food? For example, when you feel down and eat - why not treat yourself to a face pack? Or do some pampering? Or watch a good film?
Also - i know it feels at the moment that a child would make ll your problems resolve themselves - but it honestly wouldn't. It's easy to feel sad about many things, and wrap them up into a neat package, and blame all the issues on the thing which feels the most painful. But if you can try and see each thing as a separate issue. So, you want a baby - that's great! And your chances of conceiving are increased if you lose weight? Great! THEN IT'S DO-ABLE!!!!! take comfort in the fact thats its not somethign that will NEVER happen - but it might! So - to reach your goal, you have to lose the weight - and i know you dont feel motivated, and you're so down about this. But it CAN be done! Hell, if you like, i can help you with an exercise/diet plan.
Take care and stay safe
Bertie
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