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Hey im new here and after reading all of your stories tonight i feel mines isnt anything compared to some but i think its great how strangers can help and really make a difference! ..
.. im unhappy. i feel as though i hav no future, im so stressed with my exams comming up that im almost certain im going to fail them. on top of that my bf decided he needed time as we started going out really fast which was oky i suppose and i understood. he went on about how much he wanted 2 get back together in a couple of weeks time and wanted us 2 last! ..what a load of shit! hes now met someone else and the only reason i know this is because his friend slipped up about it and swore me 2 secrecy. the thing is he still phones me acting all normal and obviously doesnt want me 2 know about this other girl, i just wonder why? if he really likes this girl then why not tell me instead of pulling me along and leading me on? then my ex started bad mouthing me to him last night which makes matters worse! i feel so down and theres nothing i can do i just wish i could die! i feel there is no purpose for me in this life and just want it over and done with! this has happend to me all my life.. being betrayed, bullied, let down, lied to continuessly, people talking about me and just feeling alone
also my dads an alchoholic and not in a good state at the moment as him and my mum split up yrs ago and he is now living in a hostel. im so worried about him hes my dad and i love him but i just wish he could stop drinking! ive tried time and time again to get him to stop.. AA meetings etc.. but nothing seems to work. hes such a good guy when hes sobar but a totally different person when he has been drinking. my gran has been unwell for a wile aswell now and has been in hospital regularly, im so worried i dont know what i would do without any of them :(
i feel as though my friends are falling apart as i never see most of them anymore they are always busy or with their bfs etc so ive gave up trying. now i just stay in my room unmotivated and depressed.
help please before its too late!!
Story shared: 01/01/2007 21:08:26
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I dont know what exsams your taking but you've got alot on the go at once here and u need someone that you can talk everything out with to atleast pass it off your mind a bit..? It might be difficult to find but there is a whole site of willing and patient people here that'l listen to you I'd think and there will always be atleast this to turn to and confide in.?
If he's leading you on or he has other interests,, try and matain the friendship with him and relly try and find out where he stands with you. Might not be best to confront him about it but see if he'l stick with you through whatever else you have to deal with, if thats possiable.
If the ex has been mouthing off and has got something to say then just make sure you know what an absoloute prick that he actually is and that his opinion aint worth a nostrel hair, he's doing it because he hasn't got anything clever or interesting to say and thats how he'l always be.
I have no experience with drink problems,, but if he's proveing that he is anice guy when he is sobar, try and get to the bottom of why he's doing it and slowly bring the issue out of him and possiably get him to do some counciling about that issue rather than an AA meeting,, i dont know how they work or whats you've tried but try and find different and different ways of getting to him mabey,, or just make him apriciate what good company he is when he's sobar because he should know that and feel better for being himself. Sorry but its something i know little about..
Dealing with friends that dont give there time out is always something that will never change anywhere in the wrld with anyone,,, but possiably jus try every now and again or invite them round or out somewhere nice and easy, cheep and casual.. if they wre ur friends you must be able to get through to them somehow or another i would deeply hope....
If not, i'd always take comfort n an instant messenger friend thats got the time to talk with you,, that how i got through anythin i had to deal with and its nice to be able to tell some1 anything u want and know they can't tell anyone u know even if they wanted to,,, and they more than likely wouldn't want to anyway because otherwise the 2 of you wouldn't be speaking.
I'm really sorry,, i dont know if this would have done anything to help but i'l be hopeing the best for you.
firstly could his friend have said this out of jealousy?
could ur ex be bad mouthing out of jealousy?
and u should talk to ur ex and put him where he stands....
and u really should confront this dude about it, or even just give him a chance and if his being supicious, confront him then, u know?
and really u should focus on ur exams just forget about him for now, it might be really hard but trust me i failed my exams cos i wasn't focused on them and wished i had studied, i'm nearly 18 now and i'm still tryna sort my education out. i really wish i would've done it sooner.
but if this guy is seeing some chick behind ur back y do u still want him, a break is no excuse it's still cheating especially if he wants u back, i been 'cheated' on b4, i was only like 12 at the time but this dude would tell me things, make me feel special and made me feel like the only one. only to be saying the same thing to somebody else. i found out via his friend who i really close with, i confronted him, he denighed it to my face but when his friend was there he confessed and that was it, i walked away and didn't bother with him.... he tried to show he cared by calling, hanging around my house, sending me notes.... but if he really cared in the first he would have been seeing some1 else.... not only did he lose me but he lost his best friend as well, who didn't want to walk away from him but he said he had just pushed it too far this time.....
And i'm sure ur worth alot more then him, and every girl deserve a man whose gonna worship her and call her his goddess, and a guy whose willing to spend a lot time with u and be honest with u.
i know these guys exsist, i let one go, my best friends r guys like that and my currrent boyfriend is my prince on the white horse, the kinda guy who makes me feel i'm worth something and life is worth liven, u know?
Hopes this Helps...
Good Luck with everything *** TinkaBells xx
i never had to deal with anyone with an alcohol problem, even tho i think my mum does drink a lot when she feels down, but she's always really over-protective over me and overly-nice and trys to compansate too much for my childhood... it's scary.
but yeh have u tried to tell ur dad how u feel, and told him it affects u and even depresses u?
cos i would kinda guess, like depression, he'll need some big time motivation to get him on track. just try getting dep with him and talking to him, not only as a daughter but as friend, be straight to, and try get him to talk about his past and what made him drink the first place, then try get him to set goals for him self, this should hopefully make him feel better once his achieve it and hopefully he'll realise how much happier it makes u to c him sober... also make sure u tell him this. also reward him with something when he achives a goal... and also trying doing father daughter stuff together, go for lunch one afternoon, go to shops, go cinema, bowling... i get me?
as for friends i found out people come and go, since i was 15 i was in and out of groups of friends, eventually in time u'll have those select few who will stick around and theres always time to make new friends... and i know for sure new friends always come around... i take ur still in school too so surely ur thinking about collage, and u always meet new friends there... most definately.
and instead of staying in ur room, just like i used to, keep ur mind occupied, meet internet friends, do a hobbie... like me a goal i have is to join a belly dancing class?.... i also have seen lately i can keep myself occupied more and get on with the day... instead of thinking how lonely i am... altho nowadays i guess it's hard for me to be alone with my sister moving back in all an all and spending time with my bf... so that surely helps....
i guess it's just a matter of getting out there to stop the lonliness, cos the only person who can and can help u is urself, that's certainly what have learned..... now i depend on myself for happiness and not others. ...
Hope This Also helps **** TinkaBells
As for the ex who was mouthing off .. i cant honestly believe he did it as whe we finished we never ended on bad terms, it was him who said i`d changed!
Thngs are getting a bit better with my dad, ive told him how i feel about him drinking and how hes such a better person when hes sobar and now hes starting to get jobs and go out a lot more! im really happyfor him i just hope he sticks to it!
Yeh im still at school but im too young to leave just now so im goin 2 stay on 4 my 6th year, which im dreading, but it means if i dont pass all of my exams, i still have one more shot.
My friends have totally drifted apart with their bfs n other stuff. But the idea of getting a hobbie sounds like worth a ry so thnks, might give it a shot!
Thnks so much though, you have really helped and put things into prespective for me .. xx
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