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things really can go from bad to worse

I grew up as the oldest of 4 children, I was the only girl an only 15 months older than my eldest brother, my father walked out on us when i was only 3 years old. Often he would arrange contact with us and then fail to show up. My mother re-married a man who was a publican by trade, this is where my mothers 'drinking' problem became "alcoholism" the new guy left and i was left to raise myself and my brothers. New men came and went and still i took care of us all, my mother included. At 17 i became pregnant, i gave birth to a wonderful boy christmas 04. Things went downhill at that point, i could no longer cope with things the way they were, and worse still my mother couldn't cope with being a grandmother. I spent a long time in therapy and learnt that i had no responsiblities towards my brothers, slowly my mother became the mother she had never been and i was able for the first time to live my own life with my own family, i began to have "hope" that things might just work out. Three weeks ago my mother had an infection an took a standard anti-biotic, two minutes after taking the tablet (that she had taken 8 times before) she was unconsious, her airways started to swell up and she couldn't breath her heart stopped twice, since then she has been diagnosed with brain damage and is unlikely to ever wake up. I have since taken over responsibility of my bothers again, my dad still doesn't want to know. My partner has become less and less supportive of my care for my brothers and i have become a sounding post for anyone and everyone who has a problem in the whole world... so now what do i do? You opinion would be welcome

Story shared: 28/08/2006 22:25:02

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#1 by Christopher John on 30/08/2006 19:42:35 (id-11).
Firstly I am so very sorry that you are going through this. Thank you so very very much for logging on and sharing your story. I hope that you start to receive some encouraging words from people that read your story about your reality, it must be a nightmare for you. With very best wishes to you, thank you for coming on here, and from me to you with love, CJ.

#2 by Blue on 10/09/2006 15:32:58 (id-23).
What a sad story... you have been through such a minefield of misfortune and letdowns - you must feel like you've been dealt a very rough hand by life.

Your brothers and your son, however: now they've been dealt a stroke of luck to have you in their lives, someone strong and selfless enough to support all of them even though your own world is crashing down around your ears.

It makes me feel very glad to know that there are people like you in the world. Thank you
x

#3 by Lizzie on 19/09/2006 14:13:50 (id-33).
I expect that you want to do as much as you can for your brothers but you also have yourself, your son and your own relationship to take care of. The best you can do is to try and strike a balance remembering to take care of yourself - so you have the energy to give to others too. Help your brothers to learn to take responsibility for themselves if you can - try to guide them as well as you can so they don't expect you to take full responsibililty for them - it needs to be shared.
Love and best wishes to you.

#4 by paul on 11/10/2006 20:14:16 (id-246).
I think your a wonderful person having to cope with these curved balls.All i can say how much i admire you.And yes you do deserve much better and i hope 1 day you find it.But i have to agree with the comment above.How lucky are your brothers to have someone who cares.And i pray to god that they repay you back one day.
Love and respect to you

True life stories.

things really can go from bad to worse

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