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#1 by Carmen on 16/06/2008 21:49:52 (id-1038).
I am so sorry for your loss. The pain is raw, it will be difficult to see further right now. Every day is different, and many people don't understand what you are going through. I understand your thought about suicide. I am sorry that you had to go that far. Only you will know which way to go, how to cope with the guilt or with blaming your ex. Maybe in time you can work out a way to see the abortion as a very, very hard experience. Maybe in time you can learn from it, see the mistakes you made and try and avoid them in future. Maybe in time you will be strong enough for others who go through similar situations. If you would like to keep in touch, please do.

#2 by Joanne on 17/06/2008 14:53:09 (id-1040).
Hi thank u for mkin a comment on my stry i was in tears readin it not in a bad way in a good way as someone took the time to read it n actually take n intrest i wish i could cope wit the guilt n i hope in time i can finally get over this its bn over a year n i hope i can eventually move on n lay this t rest. n i do hope i can help others wit situations like mine wen i av conquered this myself thank u again

#3 by Carmen on 18/06/2008 00:25:46 (id-1042).
You are welcome. Take the time it takes, go through the pain, the emotions of the abortion (if you can), your ex-relationship. Don't think just because it has already been a year you should be over with it. Allow yourself to cope with it at your own pace. Don't worry about what other people think. If you believe in God or are in any way spiritual, you can ask your God for help and to show you how to move on. You can also ask through God your baby for forgiveness. I can also recommend couselling. It helps to talk to someone who is willing to listen. Situations like yours can change ones life, it will not be the same again. I wish you the strength for that. You are welcome to keep in touch. Take care!
Carmen

#4 by Joanne on 18/06/2008 15:40:48 (id-1043).
thankyou very much i would like to keep in touch

#5 by Carmen on 24/06/2008 15:34:28 (id-1062).
Dear Joanne,
i tried to enter an email address here but it wouldn't let me.
my mobile phone number is 07956 103506, if you text me i can give you my email address.
if you rather phone me that's ok with me.

#6 by Carmen on 24/06/2008 15:34:51 (id-1063).
Dear Joanne,
i tried to enter an email address here but it wouldn't let me.
my mobile phone number is 07956 103506, if you text me i can give you my email address.
if you rather phone me that's ok with me.

#7 by joanne on 24/06/2008 18:17:36 (id-1064).
thankyou very much i av no credit but wen i do get some i will get in touch as i dont know my mobile nbr off hand thankyou again

#8 by Lauren on 25/06/2008 08:06:55 (id-1072).
Loveie to me it doesn't sound like you need a baby right now.
You need counseling if you can be with a man when he has another mate then that says that you have very low self worth.
You should love yourself before you love anyone else.

#9 by joanne on 27/06/2008 14:16:04 (id-1076).
thanks but i dont wnt another baby n iv ad concillin n i dont av low self worth but each t there own opionion

#10 by joanne on 27/06/2008 17:55:13 (id-1077).
Hi carmen my nbr is 07858739750 j _kl @ live .co .uk is my email but wit out the spaces lol

#11 by joanne on 27/06/2008 18:00:50 (id-1078).
Hi carmen my nbr is 07858739750 j _kl @ live .co .uk is my email but wit out the spaces lol

#12 by shell on 02/07/2008 00:54:43 (id-1082).
Hi. I read your story and it is so similar to mine. I have also had a termination recently, mainly because the father did not want me to have our baby. I had only been with him for 3 months, the pregnancy was unplanned and i was very supprised when i found out. I was extreamely emotional, anxious and confused about what to do, and the father was completely unsupportive - i had never felt so alone. I had the termination after presure from the father and within the same week he had ended our relationship. I had found out also that he was still with the mother of his first child and that his partner was expecting their second child. I was devasted, not only had i lost my baby but i had lost him too and to top it off he was having another baby! I immediately regretted my abortion and i have felt nothing but greif, guilt, and remorse. Everyday i wish i could have my baby back, its all so painful. I became very deppressed and started drinking alot too. I realised my deppression was affecting my life terribly, my work, social life and my relationship with my friends and family, i just became very withdrawn. I decided to get councelling and although my life is far from good, im feeling a little better and i am learning to cope with these feelings. Maybe you should consider councelling to? There are services that specialise in offering post abortion councelling such as care confidential, bypas for free or contact the GP? Your allowed to feel sad, you have suffered a terrible experiece and so its normal to feel angry and upset over the loss of your baby and the poor treatment from your ex. But you need support to help you get through this...do you have friends or family you can also talk to? What you must remember is that you are still a good person, please dont beat yourself up about this or blame yourself. We all make mistakes so forgive yourself, as i did and on. I am now trying to look forward to the day i can be a mom. Im sure that one day you will meet the right person for you who wants to have a family with you.

#13 by joanne on 04/07/2008 14:13:55 (id-1085).
Hi i read ur comment im sorry to hear u av bn thru a similiar situation its not nice n its certainly not easy i cant tell ya how much i"d love t turn bk time n not go thru wit it but i cant n im strugglin to move forward ppl say it gets easier but it doesnt.. my family dont know wot iv done i was to ashamed to tell them n as for my friends the ones that do know dont wnt t know

#14 by Shell on 05/07/2008 13:26:51 (id-1088).
Yes I know what you mean - it is very hard to move forward. All I can think about is what the baby would look like and I wonder how my life would of been if I had kept the baby. It is the biggest regret of my life and I would never have a another abotion to make someone else happy because you have to live with that decision for the rest of your life.

what your ex did to you (like my ex also) is terrible and you do not deserve to be treated this way..You desrve so much better. I supose all we can do now is learn from our experience and try our best to move forward. How that is done I dont know? Have you considered councelling? I think this may be the best route..you need to talk to someone about this really to help you get through this.

Good luck and keep in touch if you want

#15 by Joanne on 06/07/2008 12:43:10 (id-1091).
that would b good t keep in touch thanks

#16 by by a nomal person on 24/07/2008 17:51:07 (id-1108).
UR SICK IN THE HEAD TO MURDER UR OWN CHILD

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