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lonely mum

Hi i'm mum to a beautiful 7 year old girl but because she is an only child i make a lot of effort to contact friends and family to have them round to play to give her (and me!) a bit of company. I always had lots of contact with other kids even though i was an only child too and want her to have the same even though we seem to have to contrive it a bit more now kids don't play out in the same way that we used to. Anyway this contact unfortunately is never reciprocated unless someone wants a favour, they obviosly don't need us like we need them even though anyone who comes laways has a nice play and my little girl seems pupular with all her friends and cousins. So i'm feeling a bit sorry for myself/like a bit of a martyr when another school holiday has passed us by without anyone making contact especially my cousin who hasn't ever rung unless she needed something off me. Feel hurt that people just don't want to catch up/stay in touch and that my little girl will miss out! Also i'm a part time primary school teacher and wonder if people see me as a confident, capable independent person who doesnt need anyone else?

Story shared: 14/02/2008 18:15:16

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#1 by midlands girl on 14/02/2008 19:15:48 (id-890).
Hi there I totally understand your situation. It seems today that people only want to know you when they want something from you, I have experienced the same thing as you. It feels that unless you make the first move or put yourself out first, they dont want to know. They never contact you, the phone never rings unless you ring them. I feel the same, I feel lonely too like this. It can be very lonely when you have a young child, and even with a part time job you can still feel lonely, what you need is a good supportive friend

#2 by leeds girl on 15/02/2008 08:57:16 (id-891).
Thanks for your comment i really appreciate knowing there are people like me in the same situation. You begin to feel there is something wring with you and yet all you are trying to do is be friendly!

#3 by midlands girl on 15/02/2008 10:41:46 (id-892).
Your welcome, yes you do start thinking there is something wrong with you and it can make you feel depressed and you start losing your self confidence, the way i try to cope with it now is to just know you are a good, decent person and people dont like you, thats their problem not yours, and if they are like that, well they are not worth bothering with, sometimes its better to be on your own than have false friends who only use you. Not everyone is like that in the world, there are some good people out there, sometimes you can meet nice friendly people who have children when you go to church, or take the children to sunday school, or somewhere like that but it all depends where you live, seems like you are surrounded by selfish uncaring unsupportive people, you are a good person, good mother, remember that and better than those who dont appreciate your friendliness

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