He tells me I'm a really horrible selfish person. Am I?
Last year I sold my house and moved 150 miles away from my family and friends to be with my man, as he has a 9 year old daughter who lives with her mum, and he wanted to be near her. He moved in with me and I've been supporting him financially from the money I made from selling my house.
His daughter, let's call her Princess, is totally spoilt and gets everything she wants. She used to stay at my house with her dad 3 nights a week, but it made me so miserable as she would talk to me like a servant or totally blank me. I wasn't allowed to comment on anything she did, like not being able to hold a knife and fork properly. I never spoke to her any differently than I did my own kids when they were young. But nobody is allowed to criticise her.
Back in December she decided she wanted to live with Daddy (mummy just had a new baby, and Princess isn't centre of attention at home any more, I'm guessing). I couldn't bear the thought of her being around full time, and told Daddy that she wouldn't be moving into my house. So he's been to the council, declared himself homeless and is waiting for a house to be allocated to him. Since then, Princess has visited Daddy at his parents' house, and I've felt so much better, not having her here and with loads fewer arguments between me and my man, although I miss him when he's away.
I went away at the weekend to see my grown-up kids and my mum, who's not well. And I said he could have Princess over to stay at my house, to give the grandparents a break, if nothing else! Princess asked for her big sister (not my man's daughter) to come and stay, and lo and behold, the grandparents delivered the sister to my house - all of this without my knowledge. Except that I've banned this sister from my house for appalling behaviour on previous visits (using my phone without asking up to 35 times a day, and going through my desk drawers and taking stuff, etc). Daddy said he'd forgotten the sister was banned. We've had a huge row and I've told him to go away, which he has for the time being.
He tells me I'm a fascist and that I'm being unreasonable and cruel and jealous of his daughter. Am I? I'm beginning to doubt my own sanity. And I'm drinking really heavily these days, which scares me. I know I've got to stop.
Story shared: 05/03/2007 17:44:08
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