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I Feel Invisible!

I'm 35, I'm married to a lovely man and have 2 gorgeous children and I know I'm very lucky. I have no friends, in the past I have made friends and some really close ones at that, BUT everybody just leaves my life and never tells me why, I've never knowingly done anything to hurt any of them but they all seem to think that I'm not worth the bother. I'm frightened of going and meeting new people now because I dont have the most immaculate showhome or expensive clothes and I'm not that bothered about how I look or what I weigh and as far as I can see that's all that most people seem to judge you by!
Will I never have anyone to share a giggle on the phone or go downtown with or to know what I'm thinking or just to care if I'm around or not? How do I meet new people that I have something in common with? I guess what hurts most is that I see all my family having wonderful social lives but the best I can hope for is that they ask me along and even then they dont do that very often. Trouble is I like people, I really do I just cant make them see me or like me back, its almost as if I'm invisible. But really I'm lost and alone.

Story shared: 01/03/2007 22:56:43

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#1 by You\'re not alone on 04/03/2007 15:29:15 (id-497).
You're not alone. It's a horrible feeling, being invisible. I feel it too. I started keeping a diary a few years ago, just to prove to myself that I existed - I was living alone and working alone. I'm a woman, so going to the pub on my own was out, as I would just get chatted up and that was even worse. Not being interesting because of who you are, but because of what's in your pants.

I felt as if I was melting away and nobody would actually know if I died in my house and lay there for days. I would go for days without speaking to anyone, and began to turn more and more inward, and dreaded going out.

I noticed that nobody has commented on your story. That's typical - I bet it's just emphasising for you how insignificant you and your views are. Nobody ever replies to anything I ever post either!

Well, in your case, times are hard when you have young children, and you probably don't have much opportunity to go out and make a regular circle of friends. I know this sounds corny, but have you thought of going to a class of some sort? I've made one or two really good friends that way. Although we don't talk often, now the classes have finished, I know they're there and that's a great help to me when I'm feeling the way you do.

I was badly bullied at school, and people have told me since then that I put up a wall, and that's why they avoid me - because I send out signals that I want to be left alone. So that's what they do! I don't know if any of this helps, but I think you're worth listening to!

#2 by Friendless on 07/03/2007 23:32:26 (id-504).
Thank You for your comment. I'm glad you're there because believe me, for me, no one else is!!
I believe that we are all valid and have a right to be here but why does it have to be so damn hard??
Am I just a square peg trying to get into a round hole?

#3 by sorry to go on about me but I don\'t know what else to say. on 22/03/2007 02:35:47 (id-516).
sometimes Im not sure if Its me pushing other people away, not giving them a chance or if they just don't have time for me, I have lots of so called freinds, some of which are really good freinds to me-- most of the time, but then there is alway the time when they let me down, or just don't seem to love me enough or to really care. It confusing because I can really love everyone for who they are , but not like them a the same time becuase of the things that they do and say. I also hate that people who I think are my freinds just dissapear out of my life

you say the man you are married to is lovely, so i think you should devote yourself to him more, why can't you giggle with your husband? Im not saying this is nessesarily you but so many women just treat men differently as though they are of lesser value, or have a lack of capacity to understand. some of us are acually incredibly complex people who want to be known more. There is nothing I want more that to have someone to be with who knows and understands everything about me and still loves me. does you husband know about your worries, if not he should, i not saying its easy but keep on going and continue to be good to people becuase that is what is right, hopefully one day soon things will just sort them selves out and make sense. good luck

#4 by p.s on 22/03/2007 02:38:27 (id-517).
maybe people have commented much becuase they didnt read the story because they thought feeling invinsible was good

#5 by gloucelady on 22/06/2007 11:32:08 (id-598).
I feel your loneliness and pain. I am also in this situation myself. Infact it has been going on for about 6 years now ever since I married my husband. I moved away from family and friends because of my husbands job (he is in the forces). Once I moved away it was like everyone forgot me within months, the friends I thought were my best friends couldn't even be bothered to visit me in my new place. Unless I made the effort to keep up the contact they wouldnt bother, so in the end I gave up trying to and the friendships fizzled out. My parents are ill so they dont go out much, so I have to travel down to see them which is a long way because they rarely visit me. Yes I to feel invisible, I could also be dead in this house and no one would know for days. I feel like a spare part too, a reject. I keep going for my son and my husband though.

#6 by lizzie on 24/08/2007 22:40:58 (id-622).
i,me 36 weeks pregnant with two kids and very lonly. my partner treats me like im not around.i have no friends so i dont speak to anybody. some days i feel like climbing walls.

#7 by solo on 12/02/2008 11:27:09 (id-887).
i am 42 male live alone ,totally dont understand people who have a partner and say there invisible i pray to have a partner

#8 by うつ病 on 23/09/2008 15:03:14 (id-1213).
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